tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post2156510237265659814..comments2024-03-08T02:29:29.019-08:00Comments on the monsters inside:: WHEN IS IT OK TO LIE TO YOUR KIDS?Jo Anna Guerrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18316962700943371963noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-90764967914126423402009-04-01T11:01:00.000-07:002009-04-01T11:01:00.000-07:00Amy, really excellent comment! And loved that you...Amy, really excellent comment! And loved that your simple, straightforward, and eloquent response totally models your recommendation. :)<BR/><BR/>Agree 100%.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your thoughts on the subject. Hope to see you around here again soon. :)Jo Anna Guerrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18316962700943371963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-58323852743156270462009-04-01T10:49:00.000-07:002009-04-01T10:49:00.000-07:00Saia and Chago, My first visit to your blog, thank...Saia and Chago, My first visit to your blog, thanks to Seth's twitter recommendation. <BR/><BR/>I have found the simple answer, geared to the intellectual capacity of the child, to be the best path through the most complex discussions. Also, answering just the question that the child asks. No long tangents, please! Of course, as they get older, the questions get harder!<BR/><BR/>My kids have moved on to asking about God's presence in life, what happens now that Grandmom died, why cruelty exists and other concepts middle and high schoolers can grasp. Now my answers are more abstract, prefaced with "I believe..."<BR/><BR/>Parenting is the toughest job. There is no moral certitude. Mistakes are plentiful. Thankfully so is love. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for your thoughtful post.Amy Rubinhttp://www.linkedin.com/in/amyerubinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-25056744278117810612009-04-01T10:26:00.000-07:002009-04-01T10:26:00.000-07:00Oh, for sure. We also have an added layer of comp...Oh, for sure. We also have an added layer of complexity to "where do babies come from?" because we chose alternative insemination from an anonymous donor. And, yes, the kids are able (in their limited kindergartener vocabulary) to explain what that means.<BR/><BR/>But, by far, the coolest thing about having children is how they make you take stock -- of who you are, of who you claim to be, of whether you walk the walk and talk the talk, of your level of integrity, and of the depth of your character. Kids keep you in check. And everyone could use a little of that.<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for stopping by, Seth. Come on back anytime. :)Jo Anna Guerrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18316962700943371963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-90050001812808346852009-04-01T09:22:00.000-07:002009-04-01T09:22:00.000-07:00The second part of part 2...how do you go about ex...The second part of part 2...how do you go about explaining "where babies come from?". I really like the simplicity of "this is the way I was born" but doesn't that make other explanations more complicated? I'm impressed with how gracefully you leap into such complexity! <BR/><BR/>I was raised without any of the "perpetuated fairy tales" like the easter bunny, santa claus, tooth fairy, etc, but I knew about many fairy tails through my reading. My parents encouraged all their kids to love reading and, somehow, I think I was able to gain the same ability to accept impossible concepts as the kids looking for money under their pillows.<BR/><BR/>Best to you!Seth Simondshttp://www.sethsimonds.comnoreply@blogger.com