tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post8655659110012656610..comments2024-03-08T02:29:29.019-08:00Comments on the monsters inside:: I AM SUCH A WITCHJo Anna Guerrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18316962700943371963noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-60136512436440330942009-03-31T14:02:00.000-07:002009-03-31T14:02:00.000-07:00Denise, thanks so much for your support. But real...Denise, thanks so much for your support. But really, will take all the advice you're willing to dole out at this point.<BR/><BR/>Gail, so funny that you mention that book. I'd completely forgotten about it. We picked it up for our daughter a few years ago when she and I were having trouble communicating, but maybe it's time to revisit it with the boy now. Thanks for that one!!<BR/><BR/>And on my way over to check out your blog now, too.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your all, for stopping by. It actually does help to feel like I'm not going through all this alone. :)<BR/><BR/>Jo AnnaJo Anna Guerrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18316962700943371963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-26519056099549687732009-03-31T13:32:00.000-07:002009-03-31T13:32:00.000-07:00Hey I just found your blog and that is a powerful ...Hey I just found your blog and that is a powerful post! I've been thinking a lot lately about how parenting is a job that you are bound to screw up. I never thought I'd yell at a child of mine, but I've done it plenty of times. And I know that it hurts her when it happens (even when she's been egging me on, I still think it hurts). I try to remember that that's part of life and the learning process too. Just like we have to learn to cope with the pains of falling down, we also have to learn to cope with the emotional pains. So I would try to remember that while you are bound to "screw up" as a parent, that's also a perfectly normal and ordinary thing to do and kids really can cope with it. It sounds like you do a great job as a parent!<BR/><BR/>We have a great book that someone gave to us called "Harriet You'll Drive Me Wild" by Mem Fox that's about a mom who gets pushed to the end of her rope by a toddler. It's a book for the preschool set and I personally find it calming (my daughter makes me skip "the mad part" though!)<BR/><BR/>BTW, I'm also a lesbian mom to one daughter with another child on the way in June. My wife and I blog at http://firsttimesecondtime.blogspot.comGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01903437001525421726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-86920559956644156222009-03-31T12:49:00.000-07:002009-03-31T12:49:00.000-07:00Ack! Another post where I didn't see that coming.S...Ack! Another post where I didn't see that coming.<BR/><BR/>Since I don't know your son and I don't know you or your history, I'll refrain from giving advice. ;-) <BR/><BR/>I can only tell you that my thoughts are with you - and parenting is a hard job in the best of circumstances. When you're facing difficulties, it's an impossible, heart breaking job. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there and good luck!Denisehttp://flamingohouse.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-58739600986522800762009-03-30T11:45:00.000-07:002009-03-30T11:45:00.000-07:00girlranting, thanks. We'll keep plodding forward. ...girlranting, thanks. We'll keep plodding forward. :)<BR/><BR/>growingupartists...really appreciate the insight. I think there's definitely some truth to that.<BR/><BR/>Not nearly as rough a weekend as I was expecting after this episode, so maybe our little talks are helping.Jo Anna Guerrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18316962700943371963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-51622853622794011602009-03-26T20:10:00.000-07:002009-03-26T20:10:00.000-07:00I hate to say this, but going to school does this ...I hate to say this, but going to school does this to a child. They lose all sense of groundedness in the family. I think it's more likely he sees his teachers as the wicked ones, not you, and he's trying to figure out a way to accept that he must submit to an authority that doesn't fully accept him. Like you do.growingupartistshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12399714569663568902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14111968.post-1018870766282733882009-03-26T19:19:00.000-07:002009-03-26T19:19:00.000-07:00I don´t know him on a day-to-day basis in order to...I don´t know him on a day-to-day basis in order to fully comprehend if HE would be like that or not... But, and I hope you don´t take this the wrong way...<BR/><BR/>I did not get to be that manipulative until I was around 12.<BR/><BR/>There may be some truth in what he told you, because all children are frightened the moment their parents yell at them, but in truth, if what he does is roll his eyes when you´re doing it, like you said, then he gets over the fright VERY quickly and then proceeds to ignore you. <BR/><BR/>That said, I know it´s hard, but you have to stop yourself from yelling and simply give him yet another timeout involving something he just ADORES. I remember that what hurt me the most was not my parents spanking me or yelling or whatever, but when I couldn´t watch a certain show that I liked or I wasn´t allowed to buy a book I really wanted... <BR/><BR/>So, I hope that helps you a little bit...girlrantinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04625968285595671329noreply@blogger.com