It pains my heart.
That they're suggesting that she should've known. That he was always a player. That she thought she could change him.
Therefore, somehow, when it actually happens, that she should've expected it.
And even worse, that they're suggesting that she brought this on herself. That she was filming on location for The Blind Side for 11 months. That, therefore, must give him carte blanche. How could she expect him to remain faithful for that long? How could she expect him to stand by her side, support her, have her back? I mean, come on, people, it's not like they were filming on the moon.
The nerve of her.
She fought the media when they first got together. Defended their bad boy/good girl relationship tooth and nail.
She stood by his side through all the controversies with his ex. Has loved his children like her own. Gave him a life he probably never would've had.
And for what? Because the betrayal is one thing. The loss of trust. But feeling like a pendeja....there's no coming back from that. Not for a Southern girl.
Putting herself out there. Standing up in front of the whole world and holding him up as her rock. And let me just be very clear that it has nothing to do with this other woman. And it's annoying as hell to hear people talk about her like, "I can't believe he left Sandra for THAT" -- because what she looks like, what she appears to be, what she is or isn't in her real life is not nearly as important as what she represents.
And what she represents is this massive societal shift towards expecting and even condoning the breaking of the sacred pinky swear.
Because that's all this is about. A broken promise. Not being a man/woman of your word. And not having the balls to say out loud the things that make you put your boots under someone else's bed BEFORE you actually take them off.
And I'm sick of hearing women say, "All men are dogs!!" 'cause, please ladies, ALL men don't cheat. And it's completely unfair to lump them all into that group.
And, let's not forget, that this isn't just about men.
I have a gigantic lump in my throat as I write this today. But am so grateful for the two little Oscars I received despite and in spite of my own blindside.